What is the right amount of change for me?
We are full on into summer now with the month of July underway and I know for me this time of the year is the most challenging for staying focused and disciplined in my work. There are so many inviting distractions and more daylight to consume my time. I am learning to accept this time of year for what it may bring and to move with it in an intentional way.
In the last few months in my client calls and with myself I have noticed how often the topic of change comes up. Whether it be the desire to change something in my life or actually making the decision to move forward and do something different.
And it is interesting to me because change is always viewed as exciting and inviting. And I certainly agree with this. And I also believe that change is something that is a different experience for each individual. I used to believe that everyone could benefit from change and from taking risks but I have learned that everyone’s level of change is actually quite different. It is not that someone can’t benefit from change but rather the timing may not be the most supportive to the overall balance within themselves. We don’t all operate the same when it comes to change.
I wanted to share a little about what I have learned when it comes to change and to offer the reminder that your own balance point is worth investigating and discovering so you have always have a place to come back in your own navigation of change.
My top Five Lessons I have learned from change:
Your Timing is your timing. Trust it. Don’t try to compare it to someone else. Let yourself move at a pace with chance that is supportive.
Change is inevitable. Even if we don’t choose it, it is still going to happen. So why not learn to have a balanced relationship with it.
Your past experiences with change are your greatest teachers. What have you learned from changes you have already gone through? Learning your own pacing with change is everything as it allows you to move forward in a supportive way.
It is easier to surrender than to keep fighting for what once was. This is a hard one. If things have been a certain way for most of your life it is not easy to just surrender and allow them to be different. Surrendering to what is and allowing yourself to feel into a new way of being opens us up to more peace and presence. Give yourself compassion along the way.
It always works out in the end so try if you can to let go of expectations. Even if it is not what we thought or what we wanted it seems to have a way of working itself out and when we are able to release our expectations of what we think it should look or it be it allows for the possibility of the unexpected.
If you are struggling with change or wanting to make a big or small change in your life head on over to Episode # 106 of the podcast where I take a deeper dive into change and provide a quick 3 step practice for figuring out your personal level of comfort.
Remember take your time and find your own way into change and let your voice be the most powerful one to guide you forward.
One small step at a time.